What three aspirational words describe the leader you want to become?
Iām asking you this because, as one of my mentors always says, āwhat you focus on gets doneā.
Here are my words - theyāre things I need to improve to make me more effective:
Focused
Organised
Strategic
Iāve written these on a post-it note and stuck it to my screen.
It says:
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I am focused
I am organised
I am strategic
And because these words are visible to me all day long it focuses my mind.
At the end of each day, I can ask myself :
How did I live my three words?
Was I successful?
How can I improve tomorrow?
Iād love to know what three words you would choose.
Enjoy your summer.
One of the things I struggled with as a leader (and in my early days as a coach) was being able to āsay it as it isā.
I hear my motherās voice (God rest her soul) in my head telling me notĀ to āmake personal remarksā and āif you canāt say anything nice, donāt say anything at allā.
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I get itĀ ā but these messages we pick up in our early years are not always helpful to us or others as we navigate the adult world of work and life.
Now of course Iām NOT saying that we should make intentionally hurtful remarks or start behaving like mad internet trolls and being vicious, spiteful and mean.
But something gets lost in translation along the way.
I had to do a lot ā and I mean A LOT - of personal work to understand that there is another way ā a way to be refreshingly honest AND show empathy at the same time. My desire to please people and to be liked had a positive side. But they also stopped me from helping others to grow, develop and change. (If I could avoid giving a difficult message, I would).
The...
Last week I wrote about the very real fear of āsaying it as it isā.
I had my biggest number of responses EVER!
In honesty, Iām not surprised ā my Facebook Group members (nearly 1200 now) say this is one of their biggest challenges too.
āI know Iām a people pleaserā, you said.
āMy manager tells me Iām too softā
āI donāt know how to raise this issueā
āMy team want me to sort it but I donāt know where to startā
āI dread the tearsā
āI know sheāll get aggressive and deny itā
āIs it a British thing?ā someone asked me?
(I work internationally and would answer āno, not necessarily!ā to that question.)
So many of us struggle to work with the tough stuff.
The good news is, I can help you with ALL of this.
If youād like to get this sorted once and for all then get in touch.
There are a variety of ways I can help which work with your budget and your availability.
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