Most of us donât want to do a bad job and we have truly good intentions. But sometimes it helps to take a step back.
If youâre doing any of these seven thingsâŚâŚ no beating yourself up.
But maybe time to make a few changes?
As always, a journey of 1000 miles starts with one step..
I always say the simple things can be the most powerful.Â
Why make life complicated? Especially now.
You can do these three things anyplace, anywhere, anytime.
No rocket science required.
One - Understand human behaviourÂ
We dedicate a fair amount of time to understanding our customers, clients or service-users and their needs.
But what about our colleagues?
You donât need to be a behavioural psychologist but you do need to understand how people behave if theyâre in âsurvival modeâÂ
If theyâre feeling threatened, fearful or overwhelmed theyâll be operating in âfight, flight or freezeâ mode with elevated levels of cortisol and adrenaline.Â
This may show up as procrastination or avoidance; extreme perfectionism, over-working or disengagement - or aggression; tearfulness or invisibility.
These are often âcopingâ mechanisms that our reptilian brain is telling us will âkeep us safeâ.Â
What you can do
A simple and non-judgemental âtell me how you are finding things generally, right nowâ opens the door t...
Last week I wrote about the very real fear of âsaying it as it isâ.
I had my biggest number of responses EVER!
In honesty, Iâm not surprised â my Facebook Group members (nearly 1200 now) say this is one of their biggest challenges too.
âI know Iâm a people pleaserâ, you said.
âMy manager tells me Iâm too softâ
âI donât know how to raise this issueâ
âMy team want me to sort it but I donât know where to startâ
âI dread the tearsâ
âI know sheâll get aggressive and deny itâ
âIs it a British thing?â someone asked me?
(I work internationally and would answer âno, not necessarily!â to that question.)
So many of us struggle to work with the tough stuff.
The good news is, I can help you with ALL of this.
If youâd like to get this sorted once and for all then get in touch.
There are a variety of ways I can help which work with your budget and your availability.
Sorry if that sounds rude but one of the mistakes we sometimes make when going into a conversation is to think we should have all the answers â slick, smart, clever answers.
Because, as a leader or manager thatâs what youâre paid to do, right?
Wrong.
The best managers I know have mastered the art of asking great questions (and listening REALLY well) in order to get to the best answers.
And let me be clear. This is NOT a set of questions that you can learn by rote and pull out randomly. Oh no.
Now, there are some great questions that can serve many purposes because itâs always good to have a starting point. But we can do so much more than that if we want to get to mastery.
My wonderful coach mentor recently described a really great question as âone you would only ever use onceâ.
Because it only means something to that particular person. Youâre using their words as part of your question.
That is really powerful.
It means really listening to the other personâs words rather than p...
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