I’ve been noticing how much there is in my inbox about resilience, at the moment. (You’ll find my team resilience articles on LinkedIn if you’ve not seen them already).
I’m also noticing something else. How much we love to ‘be strong’ or be recognised for our ‘coping skills’ (I’m guilty as charged).
We’ve often been taught to put on a brave face or a ‘stiff upper lip’ (so British!).
‘I’m resilient’ we tell ourselves (as if resilience is a fixed state rather than something that fluctuates).
So, when someone says, ‘are you okay?’ we say ‘fine’!
But I don’t think that’s a great question right now (or ever) if we want to know the truth.
When I ask, ‘what’s going on for you’? and then shut up, I can have a deeper conversation.
So, let me ask you…. ‘what’s going on for you right now?’ because I generally care about you...