How to get to āthe truthā
Iāve been noticing how much there is in my inbox about resilience, at the moment. (Youāll find my team resilience articles on LinkedIn if youāve not seen them already).
Iām also noticing something else. How much we love to ābe strongā or be recognised for our ācoping skillsā (Iām guilty as charged).
Weāve often been taught to put on a brave face or a āstiff upper lipā (so British!).
āIām resilientā we tell ourselves (as if resilience is a fixed state rather than something that fluctuates).
So, when someone says, āare you okay?ā we say āfineā!
But I donāt think thatās a great question right now (or ever) if we want to know the truth.
When I ask, āwhatās going on for youā? and then shut up, I can have a deeper conversation.
So, let me ask youā¦. āwhatās going on for you right now?ā because I generally care about you and Iād love to know the answer.
Take good care of yourself (whatever that means for you).
All my best.
Your faulty thinking is killing your resilience
As always Iām taking a break from writing new blogs in August to recharge my batteries (I try to practise what I preach) so over this month I will be sharing four of this yearās most popular blog posts with you. If you havenāt read them yetā¦.hereās your chance!
This week itās about resilience.
In the series I wrote on theĀ Six Characteristics of a Resilient Team, we looked at the topics of common purpose, team norms, trust and candid conversations.Ā
I wrote about thinking traps fairly recently so Iām not going to repeat myself on that front.
But I will say this. The more teams can become aware of their own āfaulty thinkingā, particularly the faulty thinking that is eroding their resilience, the better.
One of the teams I have been working with recently had a collective āthinking trapā of āexternalisingā. Blaming each other for lack of collaboration on key projects, complaining to the CEO about other...
