If youâre a driver, youâll know the potential danger of blind spots. If weâre not aware of them they can cause near misses, or more fatally, carnage â for you and anyone else nearby.
And thatâs the thing about blind spots. Weâre not always aware of them until itâs too late.
I went for years with a blind spot. It was a belief I had about who I was. I remember a friend of mine saying âyouâre the strongest person I knowâ and I took that as a compliment â and it was meant as a compliment.
But my big blind spot was that I was unable to show or articulate hurt.
I wanted to âstopâ feeling the âbadâ stuff.
I wanted it just to go away. (It doesnât, of course, however hard we try. It just resurfaces in mainly unhelpful or self-sabotaging âcopingâ mechanisms).
âBe strongâ was my mantra. Iâd clench my stomach muscles so tight to try not to feel âthat feelingâ.
Good for my core (Pilates is better) â not good for anything else!Â
The person who changed my life was the first coach I ever met (he trained me, a...
Last time I wrote about the safety blanket of Busy-ness.
This week I want to share with you four key things to help you or your teams throw off that safety blanket! I wrote the article for Strategic HR Review a while back and thought it was worth a re-share! I do have permission to share it with you! (The article starts on page 2.)
We all know that our best learning takes place when we are âoutside our comfort zoneâ â but not so far out that we want to run for the hills. I know my deepest and most long lasting growth has come when Iâve had to confront something Iâve been avoiding or take on a challenge that felt new and scary.
I also know that for me and for many of my clients itâs easy to stay under the safety blanket of busy-nessâ. And whilst we say âIâd love to be less busyâ or âIâd love to have more time for myself/my familyâ we just keep on doing âstuffâ that weâve always done and not getting round to the other âstuffâ
So why do we say we want one thing and then do everything we can to sabotage ourselves?
Easy.
Busy-ness is safe (exhausting and overwhelming but safe)
We can do it.
Weâre in familiar territory.
Weâre experts.
And if Iâm busy, Iâm important; valued; valuable.
And whilst we moan about âtoo much to do and too little timeâ and how exhausted we are (and many people wear exhaustion, it seem...
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